I woke up this morning

With a love song in my mind

That made me smile

I saw that there was breakfast on the table

My sweet roommate made some tasty sandwich

With a note by the side saying God Bless You

I got a call from a friend a thousand miles away

We chatted a bit

I was so glad for the call

That brightened up my day

A text sms from another friend

Saying she appreciates our friendship

Added to my joy

I saw a friend in distress

And try to cheer her up

The joke I told her

Manage to bring a little smile

I called my parents

An update them on the positive things in my life

I could tell that they were proud of me

Being able to take care of myself in a foreign country

I called another friend

And apologize for being angry at him

He laughed and mentioned that it was no big deal

I felt liberated

I read a book

And it told me that I am wonderfully and fearfully made

I accepted the truth and look at the mirror and smile

This is a the best day of my life

And I look forward to tomorrow

Whatever life may bring

Ready to face the challenge

Because I know that there is someone who is always there with me

Here I will list down a couple of thinking or behaviors that would definitely keep you in the rut of unhappiness till your last breathe here on earth. What makes me an expert of unhappiness and qualify me to write this? Do I have a PHd in this subject matter. I admit that I have not even gain a Masters degree but I hope that in my manner of writing you will not only be entertained but also have a revelation in order to change and grab hold of  joy into your life

Expect others to act in accordance to how you think they should act and belittle them when they do match up to your expectation.  Each of my family members has some traits which are not harmful but I find annoying like sneezing a little bit too loudly, asking too many questions and blinking too much… yes even that. When you live with someone,  it is not surprising that some thing so minute would be so ridiculously irritating. Just because of this for a moment or two you feel as though your day is spoilt.

Blame others for what happens and lose your temper. When you blame others for what happen you put the control of the situation into the other person’s hand and no matter how hard you try to improve the situation you cannot because you will be trying to change the other person and picking on the other person’s fault instead of looking at yourself and tapping on your strength to improve the situation. Another example is holding a person in the wrong because they did not say sorry for a perceived wrong they have done to you. As long as you feel this way you will feel resentful, revengeful and of course unhappy.

Thinking about the past and how good things were and complaining about the current situation. There will always be something in the past that is good but there is also always something in the present that is good too. The problem is that we are so absorbed in thinking about the unattainable past that we are blind to the beautiful blessings of the present.

Think that if you only have something you would be happy. That something material or human would probably only make you happy at most a few months. When I was younger I wanted a bike so bad. I hinted to my parents that I want a bike. My hinting was so not subtle and I chanted the word bike ever so often  that drive them up the wall. On my birthday instead I got a watch. Boy, was I pissed and threw a hell of a tantrum and made everyone in the family miserable. I realize how immature and childish only a couple of years later. A year later I got a bike and was so ecstatic.  I rode the bike everyday for almost two months. After that I was bored of the bike and find every reason not to ride it; The weather is too hot, risk of road accidents so on and so forth.  Therefore a lust or want for anything is just a temporary desire and the desire need not be fulfilled for one to be happy

Finally, but not least, to be successfully unhappy, read this article and comment what a total crap this is. This will of course bring a curse of unhappiness to you and your generation for a thousand generations.

Find a really sturdy brick wall. Go knock your head on it really hard. Ok maybe that will take 5 seconds to 10 seconds of action. After doing this you will probably have amnesia and your life will never be the same again.

Quick fix you may say and I should think so too. The reason why this solution was recommended is that because one of the barriers to changing one’s life is memory.

To illustrate there is this story of a young baby elephant that was taken captive. The captors chained her to a stake which is driven about few feet into the ground. When she tried to break free because she was still a baby, the stake was immovable. After a few days she gave up with the skin on her neck badly torn and bleeding.

Even when she grew up to be an adult elephant and had new strength she did not try to break free because she has memory of this defeat in struggle when she was young. Hence she remains captive through the stake which she could have easily pulled out.

Besides memory of failures, thinking about past successes can also be a hindrance to future achievement.  I knew someone who always lament that he was the top student in primary school but when he reached high school his brain just freezed and did not develop. Hence he always glorifies his earlier days in school and wish that he could go back there.

How we utilize our memory by redefining our experience will determine the person we are growing to be. Recognizing, knowing yourself and tapping on your current strength can help you  to move forward and will definitely change your life in a second. After all it is the little things in life that matters and it is the little changes in life which will transform.

Origin: Greek

Meaning: Made royal or crowned

Her track record is a testimony of greatness

A generous and free spirit

Always keeps a promise

Never remains neutral

A woman of flawless conduct

She weathers life storms

Has a passion for the arts

Reaches the finish line before others

Nah , that’s not the real topic of my blog. Just wanted to have some controversial heading . What I ‘m going to write about is fingernail painting.

It’s always been a mystery to me on why gals actually paint their fingernails. This is because I think clear natural nails are the most beautiful.

However one day out of boredom and stress I embarked on this scornful art. I bought myself 3 colours, dark red, blood red and pink. Don’t ask me why.

Feeling bold and adventurous I decided to try the dark red. It did not take me long to find out how little patience I had for this task. When I tried to put on the colours on my delicate fingers, my hands shook so much that it was not only my nails that got painted. It looks like my fingers were bloodied from a bare hand fight with a lion.

While doing this also I had the urge to use my hands for other things and to my dismay I found that I could not even use the computer keyboard lest the paint on the nails looks nasty when dried up. I had to leave my hands mid air for 5 minutes while doing listening to Chris Brown rendition of With You and trying to croak along with it. Oh Rihanna is so lucky to have him…

Finally it dried (the paint and nothing else) and to my chagrain I still had to put on another layer of coat so that this colour will last. OK this is the last time I’m going to do this, I swear to myself.. never mind about the other two bottles… I’ll just donate them to charity.

Finally it is done and I felt weird that my hands do not look like my own. I thought it looked funny. Just to make sure that people did not feel the urge to giggle when they see my hands I begged my room mate to tell me the honest truth on what she thought about my product of vanity. She paused for a moment and I thought she was going to laugh hysterically.

Nice work.. Did you do pay a fortune for this? she asked… Wow I was flabbergasted. My amateur work actually look like a professional work to her. Maybe I should change career. I would be the world famous manicurist and be sent of to Hollywood to do the nails of superstars, celebrities and models.

Ah… my imagination has gone too far. Earth to Steph…. Well that’s my experience in nail painting and I don’t mind doing it again. Now let me show of these babies to the rest of the ladies!