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Here I will list down a couple of thinking or behaviors that would definitely keep you in the rut of unhappiness till your last breathe here on earth. What makes me an expert of unhappiness and qualify me to write this? Do I have a PHd in this subject matter. I admit that I have not even gain a Masters degree but I hope that in my manner of writing you will not only be entertained but also have a revelation in order to change and grab hold of  joy into your life

Expect others to act in accordance to how you think they should act and belittle them when they do match up to your expectation.  Each of my family members has some traits which are not harmful but I find annoying like sneezing a little bit too loudly, asking too many questions and blinking too much… yes even that. When you live with someone,  it is not surprising that some thing so minute would be so ridiculously irritating. Just because of this for a moment or two you feel as though your day is spoilt.

Blame others for what happens and lose your temper. When you blame others for what happen you put the control of the situation into the other person’s hand and no matter how hard you try to improve the situation you cannot because you will be trying to change the other person and picking on the other person’s fault instead of looking at yourself and tapping on your strength to improve the situation. Another example is holding a person in the wrong because they did not say sorry for a perceived wrong they have done to you. As long as you feel this way you will feel resentful, revengeful and of course unhappy.

Thinking about the past and how good things were and complaining about the current situation. There will always be something in the past that is good but there is also always something in the present that is good too. The problem is that we are so absorbed in thinking about the unattainable past that we are blind to the beautiful blessings of the present.

Think that if you only have something you would be happy. That something material or human would probably only make you happy at most a few months. When I was younger I wanted a bike so bad. I hinted to my parents that I want a bike. My hinting was so not subtle and I chanted the word bike ever so often  that drive them up the wall. On my birthday instead I got a watch. Boy, was I pissed and threw a hell of a tantrum and made everyone in the family miserable. I realize how immature and childish only a couple of years later. A year later I got a bike and was so ecstatic.  I rode the bike everyday for almost two months. After that I was bored of the bike and find every reason not to ride it; The weather is too hot, risk of road accidents so on and so forth.  Therefore a lust or want for anything is just a temporary desire and the desire need not be fulfilled for one to be happy

Finally, but not least, to be successfully unhappy, read this article and comment what a total crap this is. This will of course bring a curse of unhappiness to you and your generation for a thousand generations.